Say “O my Lord! Let my entry be by the gate of truth and honour, and likewise my exit by the gate of truth and honour; and grant me from Thy presence an authority to aid (me) (Quran 17:80)
The Obligation of a Woman
Obeying her Husband
AUTHOR: Shaikh Saalih bin Fawzaan Al-Fawzaan
SOURCE: His book “Tanbeehaat ‘alaa Ahkaam takhtassu bil-Mu’minaat” (pg. 97-99)
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It is obligatory on you O Muslim woman to obey your husband in matters of good. Abu Hurairah reported that Allaah’s Messenger (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “If a woman prays her five (daily) prayers and keeps her private parts chaste and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any of the doors of Paradise she wishes.” [Reported by Ibn Hibbaan in his Saheeh]From Abu Hurairah (radyAllaahu ‘anhu), Allaah’s Messenger (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said:“It is not lawful for a woman to fast while her husband is present unless she has his permission. And she must not allow anyone in his home except with his permission.”[Reported by Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim]

Also from Abu Hurairah (radyAllaahu ‘anhu), Allaah’s Messenger (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “When a man calls his wife to bed and she does not come to him, and he spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until the morning arrives.” [Reported by Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim]

And in the report of Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim, the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “By the One in whose Hand my soul is, there is no man that calls his wife to bed and she refuses him, except that the One who is above the heavens is displeased with her until he (the husband) becomes content with her.”

From the rights the husband possesses over his wife is that she fulfills the duty of tending to his household and not coming out from it except with his permission. The Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “The woman is the caretaker of her husband’s household and she will be questioned as to her responsibility.” [Reported by Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim]

Another right he possesses over her is that she fulfills the duties of the household and that she does not make him hire a female servant, which will cause harm and due to which there will be a risk of danger for himself and his children.

Shaikh-ul-Islaam Ibn Taimiyyah (rahimahullaah) said commenting on Allaah’s saying:“Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in the husband’s absence what Allaah orders them to guard (i.e. their chastity).” [Surah An-Nisaa: 34]: “This mandates the unrestricted obligation of a woman obeying her husband, in all affairs, such as serving him, traveling with him, assisting him and other matters, as is indicated in the Sunnah of Allaah’s Messenger.” [1]

The great scholar, Ibn Al-Qayyim, said: “Those who say that it is obligatory for the woman to serve the husband use (this ayah) as proof in that those who Allaah directed His Speech to (on this occasion) considered this to be from al-ma’roof (good). But as for the woman relaxing and having the husband serve her, sweep, grind the flour, knead the bread, wash the clothes, fix the bed, and serve the household, then that is from al-munkar (evil).

And Allaah says: ‘And they (women) have rights (over their husbands) similar to those (of their husbands) over them.’ [Surah Al-Baqarah: 228]

And Allaah says: ‘Men are the protectors and maintainers over women.’ [Surah An-Nisaa: 34]

So if a woman doesn’t serve her husband, but instead he acts like a servant to her, then this means that she is the protector and maintainer over him.”

He further said: “For indeed Allaah obligated him to spend on her, to clothe her and to provide her with a place of dwelling in exchange for his enjoying her and her serving him, as well as what the habits of the spouses call for.

Likewise, the binding marriage agreements require that the spouses live in kindness. And kindness means a woman’s serving (her husband) and taking care of the inner affairs of the household.”

And he said: “And there is no difference as to whether the woman is prestigious or lowly, or if she is poor or rich. Just look at this woman who was the most prestigious of women in the world…” [2]

He is referring to Faatimah (radyAllaahu ‘anhaa) for she would serve her husband and come to the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) complaining to him, but he would not complain about her.

Footnotes:

[1] Majmoo’ al-Fataawaa (            32/260-261      )

[2] al-Hadee (5/188-189)

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Is it correct to ask Allaah to hurry when making dua?
Question:
May Allah give you good. The sister says: I supplicate oh Shaykh, I supplicate to Allah saying: “Oh Allah verily I ask You to hasten for me marriage.”  Is asking Allah to hasten your dua from the reasons the dua will not be accepted?Shaykh Fawzan: Requesting for Allah to hasten the dua is not from the reasons that dua will not be accepted.
When the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah are upon him, supplicated for rain he said:
Oh Allah! Pour down upon us a wholesome rain, now not later.
This is because there is benefit in the supplication being hastened for the person.
As for being hasty in supplication it is for the person to say: “I supplicated and supplicated and I was not answered.” Thus they give up making dua. This is what is prohibited.

Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
Three Laughs and Three Tears

It is reported from Abu Al-Darda – Allah be pleased with him – that he said, “Three make me laugh, and three make me cry.Those that make me laugh area person who puts his hopes in this worldly life while death pursues him, a person who is heedless [of his Lord] while [his Lord] is not heedless of him, and a person who always laughs while he does not know whether he has pleased Allah or angered Him.What makes me cry is being separated from my beloved: Muhammad and his party (the Companions), the horrors of the time of death, and standing in front of Allah ‘azza wa jall on the Day when the secrets will be revealed and I do not know will I then go to Paradise or Hell?”Ibn Al-Mubarak, Al-Zuhd wa Al-Raqa`iq article 250.Source: Sayings of the Salaf

An Essential Islamic Manner – Truthfulness

AMONGST THE ISLAMIC MANNERS WHICH ALLAH AND HIS MESSENGER SALLALLAAHU `ALAYHI WA SALLAM COMMANDED US TO HAVE IS TRUTHFULNESS, ALLAH SAYS WHAT TRANSLATES AS: O you who believe! Be afraid of Allah, and be with those who are true (in words and deeds).[At Tawbah 119] THE PROPHET SALLALLAAHU `ALAYHI WA SALLAM SAID: “TRUTHFULNESS GUIDES TO RIGHTEOUSNESS, AND RIGHTEOUSNESS LEADS TO PARADISE. A MAN WILL CONTINUE TO SPEAK THE TRUTH AND STICK TO TRUTHFULNESS UNTIL HE IS WRITTEN IN THE RECORDS OF ALLAH AS A TRUTHFUL PERSON.”[Muslim]